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Birds chirping in the background the soft rustle of a warm
gentle breeze sounding through the open windows on the front porch of the house. Then you hear "honey I’m home!" "Hello
dear I’m glad to see you (smooch). How was your day? Kids your Father is home." Then a loud Yea resounds. All of this
activity takes place in the little dollhouse on the porch as a small girl plays "Barbies". An impromptu performance with no
rehearsed lines similar to this occurs daily in the lives of most young American girls.
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I can recall as a young girl looking forward to getting married, having a career (80’s woman BUPPIES
mentality), owning a home at least 2 luxury vehicles, and at least 2.5 kids. White picket fence and all that jazz. I was
not alone in my way of thinking. On many an occasion many of my friends and acquaintances would sit and confab about our dreams.
We all seemed to have that common theme, borrowed from Disney and Brothers Grims fairy tales that He would come and
rescue us or at least sweep us off of our feet. Prince Charming of Da’Hood would arrive just in time with all of his
good looks, friends, parties (the royal ball) and of course more importantly plenty of money. So we all upheld those good
southern gal rituals. We would sit and talk about how we were already able to cook at 8 years of age. I can recall helping
in the kitchen as young as 4 years old. About as far as I can remember. We would discuss our responsibilities other wise known
as chores with pride. Cooking, cleaning, baby-sitting, doin’ hair, with a gleam in our eyes for a hopeful bright future
in happily ever after land with Him. However the older we got the more we were forced to modify our dreams. Some of
us due to "experience" had drastic changes their dreams. I can recall that we would play house sometimes with other boys and
we’ll some girls just wanted to be "nice". Then the next thing you know they are being called all kinds of "B"
words. The fairy tale becomes a tragedy. Nonetheless like the matriarchs before us we survive. We adapt and overcome. Others
of us from other types of "experience" quote un quote modernize our dreams we think well we don’t really need to be
married I’ll just adopt or have an international family, have babies from who ever I want. I’m free this is America
right?
My how the American dream really manifests is astounding! Cheva, thats Hebrew or Aramaic for Eve truly travails
to bring forth her fruit.
Some guys would read this and say "You’re kidding me. Little black girls dream that same thing that little white
girls do?
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I can recall having what I call "the little girl of the house chat" with girls who were Puerto Rican, Chinese, Vietnamese,
White American, as well as Black. The younger we were the more all of our ideals closely resembled "the American Dream."
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So yes it’s true the same thing, the same thing the same thing. Nonetheless we as women need to take a stand for
our present and our future. Oh how it hurt when our dream house crumbled before our eyes. We used to sit and tell stories
of being molested, and raped by family members and strangers alike. I like others gave this council, "You can be a born again
virgin. Just because some one does something bad to you does not make you a bad person." The truth is that those things
really do mare us as individuals and as a society. To live is to enjoy life, right? So we must repect our boides
repsectively. Our dreams, respectively, our beliefs as well. We should take a stand for the standards to be upheld
for a better future for ourselves and our precious babies.
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The point is that we as little ladies spent our time learning the standard rules and guidelines of womanhood. In preparation
to be a model citizen who cares for herself, her husband, and little ones, by dutifully caring for her household. We do this
under the impression that our society upholds these values and will defend us at home and abroad to make sure we achieve this
dream and make it a reality in safety. In a society that makes these promise known through its education system and
laws.
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As adults the promises have been perverted and made into threats.
America still has the frontiersman mentality. You must fight to preserve the sanctity of marriage and family. I have been
met with so much opposition just from trying to do what was taught to me as the standard, it seems over whelming looking back
on those experiences. Nonetheless I held on and I married while still technically a virgin at the age of 24, we had a nice
home, swimming pool, a nice family sedan, and 2 beautiful children. There, almost there, then where? The government that promised
to help me uphold these rights of the pursuit of life liberty and happiness was nowhere to be found when I needed help. I
am now in the middle of nomads land, in the skid row district of Los Angeles, California. Still doing the right thing and
being punished for it. Last night I slept on the street alone. After reporting to agency after agency for help.
These grotesque double standards are signs of the ideals being thrown out of the window that have caused chaos,
confusion and unnecessary pain and losses. Sounds like I’ve hit the jackpot in law suit land. If I can ever
get a chance to be heard in court. None the less this new way of throwing out the old way was produced by deceivers who
desire to hide their own fallacies. If women’s rights and family rights cannot be upheld then why defend this country?
We must stick to the basics as well as be mature enough to handle the alternatives. Lest we cause those pesky Double Standards
to arise and bring destruction!
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How many of you have heard these lines before:
Double standard #1. To be a nice girl on a date you must "give it up"
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Nice girls save themselves for marriage.
Double standard #2. Women should get regular exercise and eat healthy
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What, does she think she’s some kind of guy or something? Is that a transvestite or lesbian?
Double standard #3. You should through out those hang ups!
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Show a little respect. (To what? The standards have been thrown out)
Double standard #4. You should get out more party, live a little.
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She’s a drunken lush. A lazy jezebel.
And so on and so forth.
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Just know that both men and women alike should stick to the standards and never assume. Because when you assume
you make an ass out of u in front of me (ass-u- me)! Remember the alternatives are to found out not assumed.
And even then only to be revealed by the person in question. Why? Because again the difference is respect. How can you expect
women to respect politics and government when no respect is shown to them?
So look before you leap, that is in this case never assume. When dealing with others you must have some class
that is be respectful. Before going on automatic mode when dealing with someone. Make sure you put your best foot forward
before you put your foot in your mouth! Again respect is the difference. Instead of assuming that a woman is either a prostitute,
transsexual, criminal or what ever, be sure to do these things when you approach a woman:
- Exchange greetings
- Ask what is her business there.
- If you are interested ask if she is inclined to have the same interest.
For more serious situations like suspected criminal activity follow these additional steps:
- Perform background records check in the state of residence, former residence as well as the state in which the individual
was born.
- Never assume that because a person is black, wearing tight clothing or make up that they are criminal street trash.
- Stay out of other peoples business and quit bothering people.
- Because being respectful makes all the difference in your outcome. Violating the rights of others leads to limiting your
own rights imprisonment, fines, no friends, etc. Aimlessly imposing bad things upon others will come back to you, as we all
know. So if you do good that will return to you as well. Give respect receive respect.
Respect is the difference.
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